One hundred years from now, you and I will both be dead. But don’t fret, my friend. You aren’t missing anything. Everyone you know will also be dead. All your children, your grandchildren, your friends, your pets and your entire family will also be, you guessed it, dead. After your funeral, the physical things you cherish and hold dear will mostly be given away or sold. That’s why they call it an “estate sale.” Things that are not sold will be given to a charity. The home you live in today will eventually be inhabited by total strangers or torn down to make way for something new. That “priceless” vinyl record collection you’ve spent a lifetime procuring, dusting, insuring and protecting? It’s called “priceless” because nobody else wants it.
See, everything on earth will rust or rot, and that’s what will happen to most of the stuff you covet today. Lots of it will be rusting or rotting at the bottom of a landfill—or owned by a total stranger. That sweet automobile you worked so hard to afford? The one that tells all your friends and neighbors that you’ve arrived? It’s been crushed into an 18-inch hunk of rusting steel. The only remaining evidence of your ownership is the Wendy’s french fry you dropped between the seats years ago. It went down with the ship.
What about my grandchildren and great-grandchildren? Surely, they’ll remember me, right? Okay, let’s assume you die at age 80 and you have a ten-year-old grandson. It will only be 75 years before he will be the last person on earth who knew you. If you’re lucky, he will have saved a few iPhone videos and photos of the two of you together in happy times. Your grandchildren’s grandchildren will have never even heard of you. They likely won’t know your name or anything about you unless they’re really interested in genealogy.
See, after we die, we’ll only be remembered for a few short years. Depressing, huh? Few people, if anyone, will ever visit your grave. Maybe it’s the reason why a recent study found that 23 percent of Gen-Z kids want to be famous. But is being famous the key to eternal relevance? I seriously doubt that today’s social media influencers will be remembered after their deaths. Some new, younger, hipper influencers will take their place before the funeral flowers wilt.
The English philosopher and writer Alan Watts described life as being like the course of a ship on the ocean. The ship plows forward, breaking through the surf. It crests waves, some small and some so enormous they appear to almost sink the ship. But the ship travels on. Behind it lies the wake, the evidence of its journey. In time, that wake just disappears into the ocean. It’s the same way with the memory of our life on earth. Time and distance are not our friends.
Given that our time on earth is fleeting, it’s important to ask yourself the question: what will I leave behind? It’s typically our less desirable traits that are passed down to our children and grandchildren. In many cases, those less desirable traits become our entire legacy. Just imagine if your ancestors had been more mindful about what they were passing on to future generations. Imagine if your great-grandfather resisted that insatiable desire to drink alcohol and abuse his wife after the war. Imagine if your grandfather broke the cycle of alcohol abuse before he passed it on to his only son. Imagine if your father conquered his demons before alcohol destroyed your parent’s marriage. Imagine how different your childhood would have been. Three generations and hundreds of lives later, the destruction and despair your great-grandfather fostered is incalculable. How different all those lives would have been if someone had just stopped the madness.
See, we all leave a legacy in the traits we pass on to future generations, even if nobody remembers us—traits that aren’t chronicled on Ancestry.com. So many of us today are worried about legacy. What we will leave behind. What will matter when we are gone. The simple answer is—not much. The most important things you can leave behind are the memories you helped create and the cycles you helped destroy. It’s up to us to recognize the negative patterns. It’s up to us to break the patterns. The patterns of darkness, brokenness and immorality. The patterns of infidelity, addiction and abuse. Yes, your time on this earth is short. And your children and grandchildren don’t want your stuff. However, you can leave a positive and lasting legacy if you seek to break these patterns.
Rather than focus on leaving that priceless vinyl record collection to your children and grandchildren, seek to leave behind something much more valuable, something that will live on long after you’re gone. Seek to promote the truly priceless patterns of health, prosperity, faith, goodness, righteousness and love to future generations. After all, these are the kinds of traits you want to be remembered for.
